Would you want to hang out with you?

[Matt Brunk]

Ok. The title of this post is a bit strange, but have you ever considered this question? What traits do you find attractive in another person, male or female? Other than looks and good personal hygiene, what do we look for in a friend? As Christians, we are to have a reason for the hope we have and we are not to be ashamed of the gospel. We are Christ's representatives and the way in which we face each day and the choices we make signal to non-Christians what we "really" believe. Do we really believe that our treasure is up in heaven? Our attitude or happiness level should not rise or fall based on daily events.

What would a non-Christian find attractive about being friends with a commited follower/disciple of Jesus?
("Growing in Jesus" small group book by Doug Fields & Brett Eastman) People who serve a cause greater than themselves are often admired. The football player who gave up professional football to serve in the armed forces, only to die in war- people admire his courage and commitment. Unless our lives reflect hope, peace, truth, compassion and love- our non-Christian friends will not see us as any different than their non-Christian friends.

In order for me to reflect peace, hope, love, compassion, grace and gratefulness for Jesus, I need/desire to read God's word daily. Instead of participating in every good event that comes up, my wife and I are discussing the pros and cons of either of us taking time to participate in the activity. There are so many opportunities for our kids. What is the most beneficial for our family as a whole and for them as individuals? More events do not equal more blessings. I want to write a family mission statement with my wife and kids. This will help us make decisions because any option can be lined up against the mission statement to see if it fits. Do you have a personal or family mission statement? Any suggestions for me??

[James Nored]

Great! We'll look forward to these thoughts on your blog, Matt.

[Matt Brunk]

Good point. What a convicting thought to realize that with some of our friends, we are the only Christian with close ties to them. We can't take our time and relationships for granted. If a friend was floating in a tube towards some sharks, we would take action quickly. Instead of posting on the "spiritual conversations" site, I feel that my journal is best published as a blog. So let it be written,so let it be done.

[James Nored]

Matt, you ask a good question. I find that during times of stress, I am not always that fun to hang around with. Fortunately I have some good friends and a long suffering family that really love me.

Our friends and family may forgive us, but what about all of those daily interactions with non-Christians. Do we smile or growl at the barista in Starbucks. Do we yell at the person who cuts us off in traffic or say a prayer for them since they are clearly an idiot and need divine help? (It's true, isn't it?)

Someone once said that we are the only Christ that most people will ever see. What do people see in us? "Hope, peace, truth, compassion and love" as you say are could traits to exhibit. And we will will be better people for it.